Navigating Through Mental Upheaval: From Prejudice to Peace

A 2004 University of Nc study of “relatively happy, nondistressed couples” showed that couples who practiced mindfulness saw notable improvements on their level of “relationship happiness”. Moreover, they experienced improved and healthier amounts of “relationship stress, stress coping efficacy, and overall stress”. It is because mindfulness can be a conscious practice that fosters compassion for one’s self as well as for others.


We’re human; conflicts are a predictable part of life’s journey. In a anxiety where two individual characters must compromise and collaborate together in constant proximity, it’s natural that we won’t always see eye to eye with one another. Imagine this type of instance, as soon as your stress or negative emotions are triggered by something your companion says and does (and by your ensuing reaction).

Anger is definitely an immediate response and bitterness may be the path; These emotions call forth reactions rather than principled responses. So many regrettable actions and thoughts happen in such moments. I once did a talk in the bookstore and noted that this phrase “Sticks and stones may break bone tissues but words won’t hurt us” was inaccurate-thoughtless and cruel words might cause lasting damage, leaving emotional scars that fester long after broken bones have already been healed. There were a songwriter within the audience named Sarah Malcom; she subsequently wrote a song entitled: “Sticks and Stones May Break My Bones, But Words Can Break My Soul.”

Rather than holding this negativity, you are able to consciously opt to behave differently. Let’s visualize it together. Picture yourself in this heated moment when you are flooded with anger, resentment, and judgement. Imagine if you’re able to feel and acknowledge those emotions without reacting destructively toward yourself or your partner?

Do not forget that you don’t need to be physically or perhaps verbally abusive being violent. Even thoughts may be destructive, especially because they’re inadvertently reflected within our attitudes and behaviors. As an example, you may become withdrawn and critical in an argument when you’re thinking toxic thoughts. The other person’s negativity feeds off yours, and vice versa, and in no time you’ve probably both said or done regrettable things.

Practice observing your brewing emotions and thoughts without getting distracted by them. And instead, why not strike in the event the iron is cold? Let yourself cool-down and cool off, and share your emotions and thoughts when you are ready and are effective at clarity and compassion.

You won’t regret it.

“Prejudice of any kind implies that you’re identified using the thinking mind.
It means you don’t start to see the other person anymore, only your own idea of that person. To scale back the aliveness of some other person with a concept has already been a type of violence.” -Ekhart Tolle

PRACTICE

That is amazing you are well on a sailboat within the ocean, and navigating these waves may be the course of life. It doesn’t matter how well you adjust the sails or gun the engine, you’ll inevitably be blown astray sometimes. Essentially the most capable fishermen and sailors realize that sometimes the good thing you are able to do-or the one thing you are able to do-is to only ride the storm. Let the feelings blow through you then pass. Ride out of the mental storm. It’s simply a cascade of chemicals, you realize, determined by fear. These are simply waves that wash over you.
Haven’t you pointed out that it’s much easier to stay afloat when you relax your system as an alternative to when you tense up and panic within the water?

Embrace the storms, then, on your journey. Don’t resist them, but don’t allow yourself to drown of their drama either. Keep yourself grounded with these mantras:

Storms always pass. You don’t have to panic or fear.

Ride the storm. Feelings blow through me… feelings fly out of me…

Later Let me analyze the storm. Now We need only observe it. Now Let me hold on tight and pull through.

Later, you will have the clarity of mind by sitting and much better analyze the storm, and to know what caused it. You can even get the lessons you learned by observing the storm: what feelings and resistance have you notice?

What helped you pull through? How may you get this transition easier later on?

Utilize the storm just as one opportunity to gain new skills to temper your emotional upheavals. Especially, do not forget that storms can be a part of life, however you possess the chance to navigate on your path through them. You may always resume calm clear skies.

“Obstacles do not block the trail; these are path.” -Anonymous

Dr. Linda Miles is definitely an author and psychotherapist. Her latest book is Improve your Story, Improve your Brain available through Amazon or her website www.drlindamiles.com
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